Achieve Your Goals: Flow and Attraction

Last weekend, I was exercising at my health club and I saw a friend. She is a doctor and she asked me, “How are you feeling today, Michael?” I paused, then answered, “What do you mean? Physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially?” She said, “Yeah, I know what you mean.” We both laughed.

My answer might be over the top for some. But, think about it: How often are all the facets of your life in synch? Every once in a while, you have an outstanding day. Right? One in which you’re clicking on all cylinders. Super productive. Happy. Time flies. You’re engaging. You’re succeeding. People sense this aura.

Some call it being in the “flow”, a peak state when your body, mind and spirit align. So, naturally, you want to recreate when you achieve flow. At the heart, it is about doing what you love and seeing the success of your activities. Being happy in your career is critical to your well being. See “9 Steps to Achieving Flow (and Happiness) in Your Work

What do you enjoy and what do you love? Define the differences. In my career, I enjoy the challenge of running my own business. I get satisfaction in helping people with their careers. I like to negotiate (believe it or not!) But, I love to train and inspire a group. I love to consult with businesses and give strategic advice. I love to coach my sons’ sports teams. I love to travel and explore new places.

Here are three ways I get into the flow:
- Exercise (relaxation of the body fuels creativity in the mind.) Before every training, you can always find me in the hotel gym.
- Taking action (reaching out to people, collaborating, brainstorming ideas.) If you’ve met me or talked with me, you know I get excited about visioning ideas into results.
- Helping others succeed (creating a plan and getting results). There’s no greater satisfaction to me then helping others achieve their goals. When I find a new job for a person, it is a “triple win” – for the company, the candidate and my firm.

What does flow have to do with attraction? Everything. Have you read the book or seen the movie, “The Secret“? The universe is wired for attraction. On page 25, the book states:

“The law of attraction says like attracts like, so when you think a thought, you are also attracting like thoughts to you…your current thoughts are creating your future life…your thoughts become things.” Like a new house, a new partner, a new client, a new career.

You might be thinking, “This is really ‘out there’, Mike. Mystical stuff.” I hear you. I’m a realist, too. Here’s an example. This past summer, my business was slow. One week I was thinking hard that we needed new business in the pipeline. That same week, we were engaged on two new searches, three new training gigs and two employment expert cases.

Try it: Positively, think about what you want. Then take action and engage.

Two big take-always:
- Put yourself in positions to do what you love.
- Flow equals happiness and cash flow.

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9 Responses to “Achieve Your Goals: Flow and Attraction”

  1. Mike,

    From end to end, I nodded as I read your newest blog post story.

    You really engage the reader in your opening paragraph regarding the exchange with your doctor. Your reply was introspective and meaningful. Since you and she were involved in a “fitness’ environment, the desire to explore a more specific answer makes sense than just our usual, “I’m good, and you?” polite responses.

    The aura (great word!) you speak of is well described. Thank you for putting into words a scenario that most of us can relate to – that “clicking on all cylinders” day. And yes, people do sense this aura. I tend to sell my services better, make more spot-on business decisions, and even relate better with my husband during these types of days.

    As well, your inspiring us (your readers) to think, “What do you enjoy and what do you love?” is a helpful reminder. In addition to running your business, and all the rewards and (hassles) that come with that, I can see you also love training/inspiring others (I’ve witnessed that from you, first-hand, as well, and appreciate your colleagial ways). Your business colleagues, clients, etc., as well as your own sons benefit from your passion to help.

    Moreover, your 3 ways to get into the flow resonate. I have a love/hate relationship with my exercise bike and other equipment available to me. Even so, I NEVER regret (and always benefit from) a 30-minute to 1-hour trip to the gym. Totally agree with you that “relaxation of the body fuels creativity in the mind.”

    Moreover, on your wealthily worded post: “Taking action” – and “visioning ideas into results” are powerful statements. It’s not just about the relationship, collaborations and visionings – it’s also about “the doing/the results.”

    Many thanks for your positively worded, encouraging and pragmatic post (once again!).


  2. Mike Ramer says:


    Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I appreciate and value your feedback. I always enjoy reading all you write. You are a gifted writer and always put “ValueIntoWords”.

    I am very happy this post “resonates” for you. It’s so interesting how you pull the key points: “engage the reader”, “aura”, “clicking on all cylinders”, “What do you enjoy and what do you love?”, “relaxation of the body fuels creativity in the mind”, “taking action” and “visioning ideas into results”.

    You are a consummate wordsmith, so I value your summary greatly. One day soon, I hope we have the opportunity to meet.

    Best, Mike

  3. Very nice post!

    I have also found a lot of this to be true Mike. I really believe that a person’s state of mind will determine how others are attracted to him/her. I also believe that regardless of how hard someone may try to not outwardly “show” his/her mindset, it is picked up by others around that person. I guess that’s the aura. (I’ve always called it the vibe.)

    I like the description of how you get the flow. The common thread, working at something that will bring value to yourself or others. I see this as the positive mindset with an intention to maintain control of your actions.

    BTW, just picked up the book The Secret and am looking forward to reading it.

  4. Mike Ramer says:

    Hi Cyndy,

    Appreciate your comment! You sum it up very nicely: “…a person’s state of mind will determine how others are attracted to him/her.” Right on!

    Personally, I think there is so much we (mindkind) are yet to learn about bio-psychology and how the mind tunes in, that is, “being on the same wavelength”.

    Yes, what I call “aura” is what you say is “vibe”. We must keep it positive! Which is why in all my writing I try to stay away from using the “N” words: No, never, not.

    Great that you picked up “The Secret”. I’d be very interested in your thoughts after you read.

    Best, Mike

  5. Thank you Mike and I will definitely share my thoughts on The Secret.

  6. Hi Mike,

    Great article. I’m totally with you and Leo (Zen Habits) about the importance of doing what you love. I help people figure out what they love and how to get there every day, which gives me lots of opportunity to be in flow. My work is meaningful to me, challenging, and I get to see the results – all conditions that help people be in flow states.

    But I think the core is about attention. When you’re fully attentive, present in the moment with whatever you’re doing, you’ll be in flow. You can be in flow washing the dishes, filing, doing your taxes.

    Doing what you love makes it easier to pay full attention.

    What do you think?


  7. Mike Ramer says:

    Hi Phyllis,

    Thanks very much for your comment. Appreciate your insights. We are on the same wavelength: Doing what you love gives “opportunity to be in the flow”, as you write. Whether it be in our careers or personal lives.

    I agree with you. At the “core”, it is about attention and being present in the moment. When a person truly focuses attention, he/she is actively listening. I strive to do this with my clients, with my family and with my friends – to be in the moment. This helps me deliver a higher level of connection and service.

    Personally, I think people who serve others and get joy/satisfaction from helping others succeed get “double flow”, that is, they have the ability to transfer it. These folks are far and few between.

    Yes, doing what you love makes it easier to pay full attention. I’m hopeful many people will discover “The Secret”.


  8. Susan Young says:


    Thank you for this post; it is so simple and true-almost a a no brainer- but oh so difficult to achieve! When one of these pieces is disjointed or out-of-sync, everything else suffers. You refer to it as “the flow” and I appreciate your three suggestions. To me the flow is fluid, literally- always changing from minute to minute, hour to hour, day to day. This makes it a more challenging activity. Of course, as you write, the key is action, or there is no flow or movement.

    You’ve provided great information, and a wonderful reminder for me!

    Warm regards,

  9. Mike Ramer says:

    Thanks Susan. Appreciate your comment!

    Yes, it is “so simple” and a “no brainer”, yet “hard” to achieve.

    I agree that “flow is fluid” constantly changing, “minute to minute, hour to hour…” That’s the great challenge: To maintain a peak state over time. Our biorhythms have much to do with this. I believe it starts with our own emotional/behavioral management. More easily said than done!

    And, yes, taking action is the key. Because, as you highlight, action is movement, and flow can only be achieved with movement.

    I’m glad you think this post was a wonderful reminder!

    Best, Mike

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